In my research and while talking to some most well respected social justice advocates (the white ones) I discovered, like most things- many people need to see it to believe it exists and it is through their *Shock* of actually seeing racism without anything getting in the middle...that examining happens. So here we are, in the middle of a pandemic seeing it.... 

Madam Toni Morrison, her moral superiority runs supreme. She has what people spend decades trying to get. She has a level of compassion and you can hear it. In this video, she corrects Charlie, letting him know he's asking the wrong question. The right question is: How do you feel? She distinguishes between the white person who doesn't understand and the white person who is examining. She isn't speaking to the white person who is examining. She's speaking into those who feel they don't have anything to examine. 
In terms of expanded consciousness, my own examining and my deep commitment to women and women's health issues. Her words resonate with me. There is a softness in the space between me and younger men as they know they are safe to share their relationship woos with me... I will come back to racism..... just hold on please....

THE WILLINGNESS TO EXAMINE 

Now back to Racism and accepting the invitation that Madam Morrison is offering white people which is a level of generosity that only those who have supreme moral authority have the power to offer.....The invitation is to examine.... 

DIGGING DEEPER and not being afraid of the harder things

Let the examining begin. To help....Here is a wonderful Ted Talk that allows those harder most unpleasant feelings room to breath so we can examine.....

 As a member of the Association of Transformational Leaders, she has been recognized for her thought leadership and influence in personal development. Dr. Rosenberg has been featured in the documentaries “I Am”, “Pursuing Happiness”, & “The Hidden Epidemic” w Dr. Daniel Amen. She’s been seen on CNN’s American Morning, the OWN network, and PBS, as well as appearances and radio interviews in all of the major metropolitan media markets. A California-licensed psychologist, Dr. Rosenberg speaks on how to build confidence, high self-esteem, core emotional strength, and resilience; achieving emotional, conversational, and relational mastery; integrating neuroscience, psychotherapy, and supervision; and suicide prevention. An Air Force veteran, she is a professor of graduate psychology at Pepperdine.

"STAY PRESENT, STAY FULLY PRESENT, YOU CAN DO IT, WE CAN ALL DO IT" (and she gives people an actual workable formula!!!!!!!!!) 

Now that there is no shaming for being wherever we are and allowing those unpleasant feelings to move us into freedom.....It changes the game. 

Looking within, my own story, my own history....babies, boys to men and a moment with my own son.......

Allowing the elders to heal you, even if you are an elder......it's never too late.....

Another way to heal would be to use this Pandemic time to watch one of the most beloved T.V. shows: THIS IS US. Let Jack heal you as he has been healing many old school, old time fathers move into seeing their son's fatherhood as "better than theirs."  
POWERFUL SIBLING SHUT DOWN FOR NATURAL GIFTS THAT SHOULD NOT BE SHUT DOWN FOR ANY REASON 

Shinning light takes guts, it takes humility, it takes being willing to be in those hard moments, hear the feed back and move UP

Let those uncomfortable feelings help you create a better life for yourself.....

​Just a suggestion,,,
Intentional Self Care
Cleanse
Clarity
Innovation

Repeat.... see what you see, know what you know from the place of your own body, mind and heart....

DO YOU REMEMBER HOW YOUR VERY FIRST BRASS BRASSIERE DEVELOPED? I DO 

DEVELOPING THIS NEXT AWARENESS AND CULTIVATING SELF CARE AS AN ENERGETIC REMEDY IS WHERE WOMAN'S GUIDE COMES IN HANDY: 

Don't be afraid to put on, add, handcraft, or to make your own 

​BRASS BRASSIERES

TODAY'S FRIENDLY REMINDER......

Today's Friendly Reminder 

​ Coriander Seeds

Asparagus

FOR CREAMY VERSION AND ADDED FAT CONTENT all you need is a blender and a teaspoon or a tablespoon of the secret fat sauce and you got yourself a winner

My newest experiment/daily ritual is using Snapchat as a way to play, feel, think, imagine, laugh, create and remain in touch with my own natural rhythms. 

The way to play without having something play you is to form an intention that is yours and because it is yours, because it belongs to you, you intended this...and because it feels good...you will do it. 

People need tools sometimes and this one is one of those free tools that anyone with a device can access...

Waste NOT....Want NOT! 
(What does that even mean?) haha
​
PROVERB
If you use a commodity or resource carefully and without extravagance you will never be in need.

What to do with the extra spices that I have already taken the time to pinch and grind? I will just add them in my lab to develop a new experiment

You can click the link to get those spices or if you have made the beach fries (minus the bay seasoning) using your own seasonings...even better! Food should be to your liking

OTHER SAUCE INGREDIENTS 

​mayonnaise
honey
Wasabi

Added to pasta with a protein and you got yourself a solid meal that can be eaten hot or cold! The flavor is unique and amazing! Plus, this offered me three meals after walking/swimming and doing the things....

Although fats have had a bad rap for a few decades, modern medicine has begun to see the importance of good quality fats in the diet. Ayurveda, however, has been using fats not only as a healthy part of a balanced diet but also as a powerful herb and spice vehicle for thousands of years! The utilization of fats in this way is called an anupan. Fats such as ghee, sesame oil, coconut milk, and cow’s milk are recognized as anupans and are valued for their ability to carry herbs and formulas deeper into specific tissues.

THE POWER OF A WOMAN'S ANGER
TED TALK WITH MADAM SORAYA CHEMALY

Anger is a signal emotion. It warns us of indignity, threat, insult and harm. And yet, in culture after culture...anger is reserved as the moral property of boys and men. 

There are differences... 

so what if we didn't do that? What if we didn't "Severe" anger from femininity? Because severing the emotion of anger means severing girls and women from the emotion that best protects us from injustice

What happens is indignity becomes eminent in our notions of femininity. There's a long personal and political tale....

In anger we go from being spoiled princess's, spoiled teens to high maintenance women and shrill ugly nags. We have flavors though, pick your flavor

Are you a spicy hot Latina when you are mad?

Or a sad Asian Girl?

An Angry Black Woman?

Or a Crazy White One?

You can pick but in fact, the effect is: That when we say what's important to us, which is what anger is conveying...people are more likely to get angry at us for being angry.....

“All creatures must learn that there exist predators. Without this knowing, a woman will be unable to negotiate safely within her own forest without being devoured. To understand the predator is to become a mature animal who is not vulnerable out of naivete, inexperience, or foolishness.”
― Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype