Natural Rhythms through life as life moves: 52 Concise Things

Finished my 52 concise beliefs I carry now in my fifty-second year of existence.

It's also pretty cool to be able to connect to what I wrote in 2015 when I was coming out of a very different life stage!

1. Beauty doesn’t fade, it expands. 
2. Nature is soft and it’s also fierce. 
3. Love isn’t always patient or kind, similar to nature -fierceness is sometimes necessary. 
4. Feminism is moving into a new wave and it’s best to learn about the waves and recognize what’s possible. 
5. Misogyny is not sexy in men or women. 
6. Rest in Love feels better to my heart and soul than Rest In Peace. 
7. Aloneness is different than loneliness
8. No is a complete sentence 
9. Rejection and betrayal are a part of everyone’s life 
10. The willingness to co-create feels better. 
11. Sisterhood is life saving. 
12. 100% accountability is enough. 
13. Living at the level of the mind only is a dreadful way to live. 
14. A yes at the level of the body, mind and the heart is the best yes and can be trusted. 
15. Compassionate people have boundaries 
16. Gossip ruins lives, destroys families and it is a waste of everyone’s time. Yet, support systems generate the desire to thrive. 
17. Everyone is judgmental. Especially the enlightened folks. 
18. Some things are right and some things are wrong and it’s okay to say so. 
19. Facts are accumulated by effort but truth reveals itself in reverent time and both are necessary. 
20. Women who were born women have a cycle and no one needs to stomp on that or us to get their place in the world. 
21. The more I care about my own brain health, the more I heal what is exclusively mine to heal the better my brain works. 
22. People can and will hurt you without your consent. 
23. Depth isn’t heavy to a mermaid as long as she keeps her land legs aka understands what keeps her grounded. She needs an anchor too.
24. Women bleed and yes you can trust something that bleeds every month and does not die-again misogyny is not sexy. 
25. Connection is a gift. 
26. A child’s love and trust requires my integrity, awareness - who I am and how I show up matters 
27. Love is willing & that includes the willingness to say no when you are a no.
28. I will hold your hand and I will hold your baby. 
29. Communication is an Art to me and experiencing it that way enriches my existence. 
30. Hydration and a good nights sleep is often my cure. 
31. The smaller my inner most important circle/ connections I have the more consistency and stability I can provide them with. (Especially at this stage of my life game) 
32. I am a bubbling stream and I’m also a deep flowing river. The older I get the less willing I am to pretend otherwise 
33. I can sense life enriching connections within the first two hours but only in shared space because I need all of my senses to be activated. I’ve noticed other people have that gift too and I’m always glad when that happens. 
34. Ride & thrive is way more exciting than ride or die. 
35. Bless and block when needed 
36. Sensing is different than feeling.  
37. My home is my sanctuary. 
38. Playfulness is a superpower 
39. The full moon makes me feel happy and free, thanks to my grandmother 
40. I belong to my grandchildren, even though they do not exist. 
41. I’m often listening with the intent to be a trustworthy witness. 
42. Dancing hula feels like love & being in love all over my entire body, mind and my heart. 
43. Joyful is different than happiness and I’m more inclined to go for the joy. 
44. Sometimes it’s important to take the time to expand our gratitude containers so we don’t mess things up for ourselves.
45. More can be achieved when people take time to rest and nourish themselves.​
46. Trust is more important to me than love in interpersonal connections.
47. Restoring trust as quickly as possible helps love flourish. 
48. Taking a stand for something smaller and bigger than myself fulfills me.
49. ​"Do your own research," as a way  to "do no harm" lands differently.
50. Wisdom requires self-reflection and it's subjective
51. Enriching the quality of one another's existence is the goal. 
52. Nourishment, Nourishment-NOURISHMENT!!!!

Wildly, this morning before I finished 2021's list and was able to connect it to 2015- I opened the book: Women Who Run with The Wolves, I opened to this exact excerpt:
"Consistency in manner is an impossible sentence for a wild woman, for her strength is her adaptation to change, her innovation, her dancing, her howling, her growling, her deep instinctual life, her creative fire. She does not show consistency through uniformity, But rather through her creative life, through her consistent perceptions, quick sighted-ness, flexibility and deftness.

If we were to name only one thing that makes the wild woman what she is, it would be her responsiveness.

The word response comes from the Latin: “to pledge, to promise,” and that is her strong suit.

Her perceptive and deft responses are a consistent promise and pledge to the creative forces, be it Duende, the goblin-spirit behind passion, or beauty, Art or the Dance, of Life.

Her promise to us, if we will not thwart it, is that she will cause us to live. She will cause us to live fully alive, responsively and consistently so."

I love a lot about: 

Her deep instinctual life (my own) 

I think what I like the most about this excerpt from the book being placed in the space between my 2021 and 2015 beliefs is -it seems to blend in most naturally with the theme of a woman's most natural responsiveness and adaptation as life continues to move. Life was very different in 2015 than it is now. Yet I can also see my own personal integrity has been playing out through the Pandemic from my 2015 list. 

Dig this: 

2015 LIST/WORLD VIEW/BELIEFS 

I believe in telling our children how special they are with the appendage that everyone else is special too.

I believe respecting our elders is critical and I wish more parents taught that to their children.

I believe entitled children become unhappy adults whereas, empowered children become happy adults.

I believe teenage years and mid-life is essentially the same thing.

I believe Betrayal is a part of the human experience. We may not know when or who yet it seems to me the point is to grow and learn through it. No matter which side of the betrayal you are on.

I believe when you create healthier boundaries, people may rebel, dislike you, or move away from you. I believe in creating them anyway.

I believe in not coaching someone who didn't request coaching. I believe in not claiming a person is un-coachable if you don’t have their consent.

I believe the questions: "What do you want," or "what do you need," or "how can I be of service to you?" Is way more effective than unsolicited advice.

I believe you could be with someone every day and still not be there every day.

I believe you can know someone for 20 years and never truly know them and You can meet someone for 20 days and have a deep knowing.

I believe every day is a new opportunity to get to know someone all over again.

I believe there are many ways to heal. and it’s all about what resonates.

I believe in choosing joy whenever possible.

I believe laughter really IS the best medicine

I believe I usually want to talk about it, because I usually want to be free from it.
Cause you know...
“I have no desire to suffer twice, in reality and then in retrospect.”
Sophocles, Oedipus Rex

I believe affinity, Communication and a shared reality are the 3 places to look at in any relationship-when you see what's missing, you have the power to add it back in.

This was such a cool game to play!!!!!!!

​Stay tuned